The new guys seemed so cute, and your love life seemed so full of possibilities. But soon you knew all their names, who was cool, and who was weird. And now you've dated everyone you wanted to, or you don't click with the guys at your school, or you're tired of the high school drama — and you can't wait for college. You've heard the basics about college dating: more types of guys, more freedom, and more mature relationships (hopefully). But with close living quarters, no parents, and stressful classes, things get intense, and college has its own soap operas.
- Know thyself. College dating is not a quest to stumble into blindly. Know what you want from dating. Whether your goal is meeting friends or you are pursuing a soul mate, knowing your desires is essential. Just don't get too set into a she-must-have-this list, because you may miss out on someone both wonderful and unexpected.
- Keep it light. Many college freshman stumble into the instant boyfriend track without much thought. College comes with a huge increase in diversity. You will be introduced to new cultures and ideas. Falling into a relationship right away might mean that you miss out on figuring out what type of person is perfect for you in the long run. Don't be afraid of casual dating. Dating more than one person at a time is often the best route, as long as everyone involved knows exactly what is going on.
- Don't be that guy. We all know that guy. The tool with hair so gelled a hurricane couldn't hurt it, a cocky I'm-so-hot attitude, and a fierce dedication to “Gettin' some, brah!” If this is the only rule you follow, don't be that guy. Acting pushy and immature does not read confident, it reads desperate. Ironically, begging for attention with excessive high-fives and “that's what she said”s can make others ignore you as soon as you enter a room.
- Have guts. You will never know what you can achieve until you put yourself out there. Having guts is crucial to dating in college. Never assume that you're not good enough for that pretty girl down the hall. If you aren't naturally self-confident, pretend. You may find that being brave is enough to impress even the most elusive vixen.
- Clean up. Scruffy is cute. Smelly, greasy and careless is disgusting. Don't walk that line. Good hygiene is important to college girls. A number of college guys will try to appear gross just because they want a girl to like their “real” selves. However, adopting this blase attitude is a huge mistake. There is nothing wrong with putting your best self forward. Get noticed for the right reasons—take a shower.
- Don't get too drunk. Let's face it: students drink in college. Parties are a great way to meet people, and alcohol often acts as a social lubricant. Yet, the guy who stumbles into a party and passes out of it usually goes home alone. Being obnoxiously drunk can lead to bad decisions.
- Be classy. Class is underrated on the college scene. There is something to be said for retaining a level of dignity in a sea of people abandoning self-respect. Class is hard to define, but involves an emphasis on loyalty to friends and oneself, pursuing women of substance and being true to a moral code, however loose it may be. Dignity helps to keep a reputation clean on a small campus.
- Make friends. Collegiate life is all about meeting new people, whether male or female, friend or love interest.
- Avoid the bandwagon. Believe it or not, peer pressure is an issue in college dating. Just because all of your friends think a girl is hot doesn't necessarily mean that she's your type. There's this secret phenomenon on college campuses where a bunch of guys pursue the same girl only to wind up empty-handed or discover that she's not what they expected. Meanwhile, pretty, smart girls go unnoticed because everyone is interested in one girl. Be an individual, like what you like.
- Bros before hoes—kinda. The classic "bros before hoes" rule does apply, but to an extent. Never betray your friendships by being the guy that your friend's girlfriend cheats with, and don't make a move on the girl that he's been pursuing for six months. Loyalty to your friends means making sacrifices. However, don't take the rule too far. If a buddy if trying to block your game out of jealousy, it is okay to go ahead. You have to look out for your own interests.
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